3 Questions You Must Learn to Ask Before Saying “Yes”


I don’t know about you, but I’m a total people-pleaser. I love saying yes and seeing the smile on the person’s face when I’m able to take something off their plate.

The problem is– people pleasers (like me) always end up overwhelmed and overworked. Why?

Because we are tempted to forget one important thing:

We have the power to choose our own lives.

Outside of our basic responsibilities to our family, we don’t have to say yes to anything else.

But if we want to harness this power– and live a life we choose–we must learn when to say yes and when to say no.

Give this a try. Next time a request is asked of you, don’t say yes right away.

Pause & Ask Yourself These 3 Questions:

{These questions are paraphrased from *Essentialism. }

1. Is this really required?

It’s easy to assume a lot of things are required– that really aren’t. Maybe it’s staying that extra hour at work or going to that obligation party or attending that meeting you’ve always attended. Before saying yes, ask yourself: Is this REALLY required or am I just assuming that it is?

2. Does this additional activity line up with my “highest contribution”?

3. Do I have the time required to meet the demand?

Often times we think we should say yes, just because something is asked of us. But in reality, if we don’t have the capacity to do the task, we can’t, in good concience take it on. (Or we need to ask, what needs to be cut, so I have the time to meet this demand?)

Unless the answer is yes to ALL these questions, your answer must be no to the request.

Or put another way:


Hate saying no? You’re not alone! Stay tuned for my next post that will help you out with that. 🙂

In case you missed it, make sure to find out why you’re not the worst parent ever and how to keep your weekends from being hijacked.

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