Parenthood comes with a huge helping of guilt, from the moment your child arrives.
Guilt that you’re not good enough…
Guilt that you’re not better at parenting…
Guilt that they don’t have (fill in the blank), etc., etc., etc.
There are legitimate things to feel guilty about as parents. However, in my experience the most common “guilt areas” that I’ve felt and witnessed are nothing to stress about.
Here are 10 Things You Can Stop Feeling Guilty About… Starting Today.
1. Wanting Time Away From Your Kid(s)
We ALL want time away from our kid(s). If you get the chance to be away from them, don’t squander it feeling bad about NOT wanting to be with them!
2. Giving Your Kid(s) Hand-Me-Downs
Hand-me-downs, particularly when your child is too young to notice– are awesome. Yes, there may be a day to buy them something new for school, but if you have the chance in their early years, buy as little as possible! Borrow, reuse and save, moms!
3. Missing the Days Before They Were Born
We ALL miss the days before our kids were born. Don’t hide that feeling; don’t dwell on it either. Life has seasons– each with its own positives and negatives. Missing pre-baby days doesn’t mean you don’t love your child!
4. Making Space for “You” time
It’s so hard to make deliberate time for ourselves as moms, and if you’re like me, you feel guilty when you do. However, I’m gradually getting better about this. Taking time for yourself will produce dividends for your family. Do it.
5. Doing a Happy Dance at Your Child’s Bedtime
I LOVE bedtime; it’s “me” time! Don’t you dare feel bad about being excited about this!
6. Disciplining Your Kid
Kids hate discipline; kids need discipline. End of discussion.
7. Not Spending Every Moment on Your Kid
Kids need A LOT of love and attention, but they don’t need ALL your attention. Appropriate independence is a skill that can’t be learned with you breathing down your kid’s neck. Supervise them, spend time with them, but don’t smother them!
8. Skipping a Good Habit– Once
Habits (like eating vegetables and brushing teeth) are built over time. One day of a missed behavior is not that big of a deal; let it go.
9. Giving Your Kids Chores
I mentioned this in my article at Motherly, but giving kids chores is actually really good for them! When they are young, they probably will enjoy it; as they grow, not so much. Regardless, it’s a great thing to teach your kids how to work! Don’t steal this opportunity by doing everything for them!
10. Not Having a Lot of Money.
If you struggle with your finances, there may be times when you think: “If only I had enough money to…(fill in the blank). The thing is, more isn’t always better for kids! Use this as an opportunity to teach your kid the value of resourcefulness.
Hope you feel encouraged, moms! You’re doing good. 🙂